It’s a new year, and that means new year’s resolutions are on the table. Perhaps there are even some rollover resolutions on your list that never really met the finish line in 2019 — don’t worry sis, I got a few too.

I’m pretty sure at the beginning of every year, you have some sort of “this is my year” declaration that you’ll finally achieve those goals that you’ve been talking about for some time. However, by the time March approaches, you’ve either slowed your pace or have come to a complete halt due to lack of motivation or just tired of doing too much.

Gone are those days, girlfriend.

It’s a NEW decade. It’s time to birth the very visions God has given you the green-light for. 2020 is the year of hitting every milestone you set for yourself. PERIODt! No more holding off until tomorrow because if that’s your M.O. tomorrow won’t ever arrive. Come December 31, 2020, I want us all to reflect on all the moves that were made.

And don’t worry about how you’re going to make this happen because as always, I GOT YOU!

I’ve got the perfect way to help you knock out all of your goals. You still have to put in the work and be dedicated to the cause, but this thing will push you to move forward even when you don’t feel like it. Because we all have those moments.

We’re going to soar in 2020 with the help of… ACCOUNTABILITY GROUPS!

Last summer, my friends and I were sharing our dreams over a cocktail. We kept talking about one day until we realized that one day could be TODAY if we really had a plan. That’s where our monthly accountability group check-in was birthed.

I know there’s someone reading this is thinking “been there, done that with an accountability group and it didn’t work.” Well, before you click out of this page, hear me out. Accountability groups are successful when there’s organization and you’re meeting with the RIGHT people. Trust me I know the benefits of a good accountability group/ partner. We started last summer and I crossed more finish lines within 6 months than I normally do in a year.

In order for this to work, you need the right people in your corner.

Who you share your wildest dreams with will either help you fly or sink. For your accountability group, choose the people who TRULY want to see you win. Be careful of who you pick because some people will say they’re rooting for you when in secret they don’t want you to do better than them. Those are the people who won’t apply pressure when needed. They’ll literally turn a blind eye, let you bleed out and then act like they didn’t notice that you needed help. (Maybe I’ll do a post on that at a later date because the secret hate with your “friends” is a real thing.)

Truth is, no one is going to be motivated to work towards their goals 24/7, however when you pick some real ones who want it for you as bad as you do, they will push you to move forward even when you don’t feel like it. Shoot, they’ll even encourage you when they aren’t motivated for themselves. That’s why I said, who you call an accountability buddy will either make or break you.

Therefore, be sure to enlist the people who aren’t afraid to ask you the hard questions, give you tough love and encourage you to chase after EVERY single dream you have. If you’re thinking about doing this with a friend who doesn’t meet all three requirements above, then don’t even invite them in. In this case, nah, they can’t sit with you.

Now let’s discuss the structure of our monthly meetups.

Step one

First we separate our goals into 5 categories— health, relational, spiritual, mental health and career.

  • Health- speaks to physical goals whether it be fitness, diet and overall wellness of your being.
  • Relational- romantic, friendship, family, etc. fall under this category.
  • Spiritual- For the saints, this where you list all your God-centric goals like spending more time with Him, praying daily, or whatever those goals may be.
  • Mental health- this is the hardest goal for me to tackle every month. Everything from therapy, self-care or overall mental state goals fall into this.
  • Career- What do you want to achieve in your vocation or hustle? Add those goals in this section.

Step two

Once we each figure out all of our goals, we then face the reality of where we currently are in our lives. This is the part where we tend to get the most discouraged because we see how far away we are from where we want to be. But this is where *insert supportive friends* fill you up with encouraging words.

Step three

We then make PRACTICAL deadlines on when we can complete each goal. Some deadlines can be as recent as today to a year or so from now. One of my spiritual goals, is to spend time daily in the Word. A goal like that I start right away. For the long-term goals, we break them down into smaller goals with shorter deadlines. That way, we don’t put off those goals until the last minute. So, say my goal is to save an extra $1,000 by the end of the year. My short term goal would be to save $84 every month for the next 12 months so that when I get to my deadline date, I have $1,000 saved up. (I got $84 because $1,000 divide by 12 equals approximately 84!)

Step four

Now that we have the deadlines figured out, let’s talk about the how. A dream only becomes a reality when there is a game-plan in place. This step is the game-plan. It’s crucial to your success.

How are you going to make it happen? What habits/ practices do you need to implement into your life or break in order to help you achieve those goals? Be realistic with your how. If your goal is to lose 20 pounds but you currently only go to the gym once a month, don’t set a goal to be in the gym 5 days off the rip. When you’re aggressive like that with your plan, it’s easier to fall off/ get discouraged because you’re probably struggling with keeping up. Therefore, start out smaller and gradually build up to the 5 days.

Step five

We fast collectively. We each believe that every goal that we have was given by God. By fasting as a group, we invite God into our plans and really rely on Him to help us achieve our goals. You can’t do God’s business without Him.

Step six

Check in with your group-mates throughout the month. See if their on track to meet their monthly goal. Send encouraging notes. Also, be honest about where you are in your journey.

Step seven

Meet up again the next month and start all over with beginning with step one.

With a plan like this, it’ll be hard not to cross the finish line. Let me know if you decide begin an accountability group following my outline.

If you ever need to talk or prayer, you can leave a comment below of email directly at monique@withlovebylove.com

xo,

Monique Love

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