To my fellow singles,

Can we have an honest moment? Not like a “you will be single until you are content with your life” moment, but like a for real honest moment? From one single to another moment? Okay, cool.

I wrote this open letter to myself, my single self because sometimes the best thing to do is to just let all of our feelings out. I wrote this open letter to let other single women/men that struggle in the single season that you are not alone.  I wrote this open letter to encourage other singles that it is okay to desire more. It is okay to feel frustrated and wonder. It is okay to feel lonely. Although it is totally okay to feel this way, I encourage you to lean on Christ more than ever during these times because he is the ONLY one who will give you perfect peace. No man can give us the peace Daddy does. And guess what? Being married does not take away the feeling of wanting more, loneliness or frustration, so I have learned not to rely on a man to take my unwanted emotions away because leaning on Christ with my all is my happily ever after.

Even with this revelation and my life devoted to Christ, I still want to be married and have MY perfect help-meet to disciple to the nations with. When God created Adam and Eve, he also birthed the want for community, love and companionship. My want for something more in a place where you know you weren’t called to be alone is a hard pill to swallow at times.

Dear Me,

Life has been a struggle lately, I feel as though I am stuck in this waiting space. I feel singled out. I see my friends getting married, having babies and meeting career goals before they hit 35. Sometimes I look at their lives and wonder what God is doing with mine.

I’m faithful, I truly love God with all my heart, I have a relationship with Christ and I am allowing Him to use me to make disciples but why is everyone else’s lives passing by and I’m over here struggling and doing it all by myself? And it’s not like I obsess over these things but I figure that living for Christ has these rewards. Because the bible says to commit your life to him and your plans will succeed!

I don’t want to be left behind while my friends live these amazing lives but more importantly I don’t want to be left on earth when Jesus comes back to get His people. So that is why I go hard for Jesus because eternity with Jesus is my number one goal while everything else falls behind.

But why must everyone seem to be going on with their lives and I’m over here praying for the things I prayed for 4 years ago? God says he’ll never leave me nor forsake me so I trust that he will give me my hearts desires when He feels the time is right (I so trust His timing over mine) but can you please send me some signs and wonders that I’m on the right track?

No matter what transpires of this life of mine, I am never letting go of Christ because life with Him is the best life to live.


A single girl who’s trying to do life God’s way

Here are some good verses on patience and peace to meditate on:

“Therefore, among God’s churches we boast about your perseverance and faith in all the persecutions and trials you are enduring. All this is evidence that God’s judgment is right, and as a result you will be counted worthy of the kingdom of God, for which you are suffering.” 2 Thessalonians 1:4-5
“For in this hope we were saved. But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what they already have? But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patientlyIn the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God.” Romans 8: 24-27
Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” John 14:27
“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.” Colossians 3:15
“through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance;  perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Romans 5: 2-4
Monique Love


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